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Preface
- Lara Love Hardin, The Many Lives of Mama Love: A Memoir of Lying, Stealing, Writing, and Healing (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2023), 292.
- Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever, Women Don’t Ask: Negotiation and the Gender (Princeton: Princeton University Press, 2003), loc 128/4438.
- See Elizabeth Lesser, Cassandra Speaks: When Women are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes (New York: HarperCollins, 2020).
- Brene Brown, Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts (New York: Random House, 2018), 77.
- See Fran Hauser, The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018).
- Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance –What Women Should Know (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 49.
Introduction
- Tara Sophia Mohr, “Why Women Don’t Apply for Jobs Unless They’re 100% Qualified,” Harvard Business Review Aug. 25 (2014), https://hbr.org/2014/08/why-women-dont-apply-for-jobs-unless-theyre-100-qualified.
- Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead (New York: Alfred A Knoff, 2014), 11.
- Rolling Stones, “You Can’t Always Get What You Want,” Decca, 1969.
- Collett Dowling, “The Cinderella Syndrome,” The New York Times (1981-03-22) ISSN 0362-4331. Retrieved 2022-07-22.
- Taylor Swift, “Bejeweled,” Speak Now album re-recorded, Republic Records, 2023.
- Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky, “Prospect Theory: An Analysis of Decision Under Risk,” Econometrica 47, no. 2 (1979): 263.
Self-Limiting Behaviors: Progress over Perfection
- Shauna Niequest, Present over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2016).
- Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Letting Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (MA: Hazelden, 2010).
- Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance –What Women Should Know (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 107.
People-Pleasing
- Awkwafina, “Keynote Address” (lecture, Massachusetts Conference for Women, Boston, MA, December 10, 2020).
Control
- Emma Hinchliffe, “Women CEOs run 10.4% of Fortune 500 Companies,” Fortune, June 5 2023, https://fortune.com/2023/06/05/fortune-500-companies-2023-women-10-percent/.
Isolation
- Jeremy Bauer-Wolf, “Feeling Like Imposters,” Inside Higher Ed, April 6 2017, https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2017/04/06/studyshowsimpostorsyndromeseffectminoritystudentsmentalhealth.
- Brene Brown, Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts (New York: Random House, 2018), 91.
- Chloe Zhao, “Keynote Address” (lecture, Massachusetts Conference for Women, Boston, MA, December 10, 2020).
Why Are We So Afraid of Failure?
- Angela Duckworth, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, (New York: Scribner, 2016), 8.
- Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance –What Women Should Know (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 49.
- Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Blair Wisco, and Sonja Lyubomirsky, “Rethinking Rumination,” Perspectives on Psychological Science 3, no. 5 (2008): 400.
- Raina Brands and Isabel Fernandez-Mateo, “Women Are Less Likely to Apply for Executive Roles if They’ve Been Rejected Before,” Harvard Business Review, Feb 7 2017, https://hbr.org/2017/02/women-are-less-likely-to-apply-for-executive-roles-if-theyve-been-rejected-before.
Resilience Strategies Overview
- See Rick Hanson, Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence (New York: Harmony Crown Publishing Group, 2013).
See Failure as Courage
- See Doris Kearns Goodwin, The Bully Pulpit: Theodore Roosevelt, William Howard Taft, and The Golden Age of Journalism (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2013).
- Brene Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead (New York: Gotham Books, 2012), 1.
- Theodore Roosevelt, “The Man in the Arena,” speech delivered at the Sorbonne in Paris, France, April 23, 1910.
Stay Positive in the Process
- Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance –What Women Should Know (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 43.
Set a Timer on the Pity Party
- Raina Brands and Isabel Fernandez-Mateo, “Women Are Less Likely to Apply for Executive Roles if They’ve Been Rejected Before,” Harvard Business Review Feb 7 2017.
- See Elizabeth Lesser, Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (New York: Villard, 2005).
Confide in a Friend
- Brene Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. (New York: Gotham Books, 2012), 2.
- See Brene Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. (New York: Gotham Books, 2012).
Know When to Quit
- Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach, “When Should We Quit?” With Abbi Jacobson, We Can Do Hard Things, November 29, 2022, https://open.spotify.com/episode/0reoHXnlgfN46POwzMrMSJ?si=ocO50NvRry5bA2xG_QiKw.
- Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach, “When Should We Quit?” With Abbi Jacobson, We Can Do Hard Things, November 29, 2022, https://open.spotify.com/episode/0reoHXnlgfN46POwzMrMSJ?si=ocO50NvRry5bA2xG_QiKw
- Winston Churchill, speech, Harrow School, London, October 29, 1941.
- See Angela Duckworth, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, (New York: Scribner, 2016).
Confidently Communicate Competence Overview
- See Fran Hauser, The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love without Becoming a Person You Hate (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018).
- See Albert Mehrabian, Silent Messages: Implicit Communication of Emotions and Attitudes (Belmont, CA: Wadsworth, 1981).
- Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (New York: Crown, 2012).
Power Writing: Trim the Hedges When You Write
- Tara Mohr, Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead (New York: Avery, 2015), 185.
- Tara Mohr, Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead (New York: Avery, 2015), 186.
- Tara Mohr, Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead (New York: Avery, 2015), 187.
- See James Clear, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones (Kansas City, MO: Lifestyle Publishing, 2019).
Speaking with Confidence—Quit the Qualifiers
- Tara Mohr, Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead (New York: Avery 2015), 185.
Speaking with Confidence—Usurp the Upspeak
- Eleanor Roosevelt, free standing quotation, Reader’s Digest, September, Vol. 37 1940, 84.
Sorry I’m Not Sorry
- Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance –What Women Should Know (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 106.
- Deborah Tannen, “Contrite Makes Right,” Civilization (April/May 1999): 67-70.
Playing Big—The Power of Body Language
- Emma G. Fitzsimmons, “A Scourge is Spreading. MTA’s Cure? Dude, Close your Legs,” New York Times, December 20, 2014, https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/21/nyregion/MTA-targets-manspreading-on-new-york-city-subways.html.
- Fran Hauser, The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018), 63.
- Amy Cuddy “Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are,” TED Talk, Oct 1 2012, https://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_may_shape_who_you_are.
The Power in Compliments
- Kirk Johannesen, “Daily Gratitude as a Health-positive Attitude,” IU News, February 18, 2020 https://news.iu.edu/live/news/26654-daily-gratitude-as-a-health-positive-attitude.
- Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance it Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2015), 193.
- See Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes: How to Dance it Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2015).
Don’t Interrupt Me
- See Deborah Tannen, You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation (New York: HarperCollins) 1990.
No Is a Complete Sentence
- See Fran Hauser, The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate, (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt 2018)
Her Success Does Not Threaten Mine
- Lysa TerKeurst, “Proverbs 31 Ministry,” May 21, 2020 https://proverbs31.org/read/devotions/full-post/2020/05/21/her-success-doesnt-threaten-mine
Find Your Fan Girls
- Ava DuVernay, “Keynote Address” (lecture, Pennsylvania Conference for Women, Philadelphia, Oct 2, 2019).
Creating a Culture of Cooperation and Abundance
- Emma Hinchliffe, “Women CEOs run 10.4% of Fortune 500 Companies,” Fortune, June 5 2023, https://fortune.com/2023/06/05/fortune-500-companies-2023-women-10-percent/.
- Kirk Johannesen, “Daily Gratitude as a Health-positive Attitude,” IU News, February 18, 2020, https://news.iu.edu/live/news/26654-daily-gratitude-as-a-health-positive-attitude.
- Fran Hauser, The Myth of the Nice Girl: Achieving a Career You Love Without Becoming a Person You Hate (New York: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018).
Ask For What You Want
- Linda Babcock and Sara Laschever, Women Don’t Ask: Negotiation and the Gender Divide (Princeton: Princeton University Press, 2003).
- See Alexandra Carter, Ask for More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2020).
- Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (New York: Free Press, 1989), 218.
- Abby Wambach, Wolfpack: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game (New York: Celadon Books, 2019), 25.
- Alexandra Carter, “How to Turn a ‘No’ into a ‘Yes,’” Career Contessa, September 13, 2022, https://open.spotify.com/episode/0SzUc3RlvTjslqKZVhboUn?si=lxhKwr4UTgqFfuNXm2OhBw.
- See Alexandra Carter, Ask for More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2020).
- Sallie Krawcheck, “Nothing Bad Happens When Women Have More Money,” The Julia La Roche Show, December 28, 2023, You Tube, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfT3iv28TNo.
- See Brene Brown, Dare to Lead: Brave Work, Tough Conversations, Whole Hearts (New York: Random House, 2018).
- Abby Wambach, Wolfpack: How to Come Together, Unleash our power, and Change the Game (New York: Celadon Books, 2019), 25.
TED Talks:
- Sheryl Sandberg Lean In https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18uDutylDa4
- Angela Duckworth GRIT https://www.ted.com/talks/angela_lee_duckworth_grit_the_power_of_passion_and_perseverance?language=en